How to Manage and Live with Toxic People

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You have heard that we should avoid toxic people or at least minimize our interactions. But what if this is not possible to create the separation you want or need? What defines a toxic person? How do you know that you’re hanging out with one? And if you are, what can you do about it?

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What is a toxic person?

Guilt vs. Shame: Making the Changes We Want

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Guilt vs ShameFor many years, people have used the terms "guilt" and "shame" to describe emotions liberally. I have always seen them as distinct from each other in very important ways. What is important about understanding the difference is the ability to make changes to things that we have struggled to change for most of our lives.

Solution Focused Brief Therapy: Is it for me?

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solution-focused-therapy-briefSolution focused brief therapy (SFBT) targets the desired outcome of therapy as a solution rather than focusing on the symptoms or issues that cause the distress and brought the individual to therapy. This technique concentrates on the present and the future of the individual, and avoids focusing on past experiences.

Playing to your Strengths: Strength Based Therapy and Why it Works

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strength-therapy-positive-successThroughout the history of psychology, counseling has focused on getting to the problem and solving it. But what if focusing on the problem becomes the problem? There are many effective Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Strategies that effectively address problems and help you resolve those problems.

Improving your Emotional Intelligence

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mood-emotion-intelligence-IQOne of the many things I run into in therapy with my client’s is their lack of emotional intelligence. This does not come from a lack of insight or ability. More often than not, this either comes from a misunderstanding of behaviors for emotions, or not being aware of the different emotions we sometimes feel.

The Stress Generation: What Stress is Doing to our Kids

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Stress-anxiety-children-adolescentsIt is common knowledge that stress and anxiety are bad for the body over long periods of time. While we all know that serious adult stress can lead to illnesses such as ulcers and hypertension, we don't associate these maladies with children.

Challenging your Poor Self-Esteem

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self-esteem-image-negative-thoughtsEvery problem has roots, and there are roots to poor self-esteem. Some say that if you do not know how you got there you cannot deal with it. This idea is not supported in evidence based research. Being able to identify how it got there helps with peace of mind but does not change outcome to recovery.

When to Evaluate your Child for ADHD

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ADHD-evaluation-attention-focus-behaviorWhat is an in-depth formal evaluation for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and when would you want one done? Before you make this decision, you need to understand the signs to look for to determine when to have your child or teen formally evaluated.

Formal testing may be helpful if your child shows signs of the following:

Misunderstanding Depression

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Depression may be one of the most misunderstood health issues in the world. Few people would criticize those who have physical diseases or disabilities, but many people express their opinions about depression. What needs to be understood is the difference between clinical or diagnosable depression and feeling depressed.

False Assumptions about People with Mental Health Disorders

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False Assumptions about People with Mental Health DisordersIn the last 20 years, mental health disorders have come out of the shadows and into the mainstream. The biggest examples of this are the sheer numbers of people taking mental health medications, and the increases in the diagnosis of autism and bipolar disorder.

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